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Being visibly Non-binary

Being visible is sometimes an awful experience but also sometimes amazing.
Non-binary person sitting on rocks wearing red skirt, blue tights and denim jacket.

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This week’s photo are self portraits of someone selflessly being themselves, me. It's a self portrait series I'm slowly working on looking at myself and identity.

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Non-binary person wearing black denim jacket, green boots, red skirt, blue tights and a red cap standing in front of a lighthouse


Visibility

I’ve been to a few trans events over the years as an ally but 2022’s ‘Trans Day of Visibility’ (TDoV) is my first as a non-binary person. Is non-binary trans I hear you ask? (Oh I’m also autistic and as you know autistic people have super powers one of which is hearing people’s thoughts as they read my newsletter.) Stonewall describes transgender as;

Trans is an umbrella term to describe people whose gender is not the same as, or does not sit comfortably with, the sex they were assigned at birth.

Non-binary fits into this as our gender identity isn’t 100% aligned with what we were assigned at birth. This means TDoV is inclusive of anyone who fits under the trans umbrella. 2022’s is my first official one as non-binary me and all week I’ve been asking myself, “So what does it mean to me?”

The idea behind TDoV is a day to celebrate and amplify trans voices. We should be doing so every day, if possible, but really go for it on 31st March. If you like Star Trek find a trans writer, YouTube, podcaster and share their work. If you like fashion maybe look into trans fashion. Whatever you’re into try and find a trans voice and see what they think, and share it. It is hugely important to raise voices, to make trans people feel pride in their work and that they are valued. It is important because it’s so easy to sit at home doom scrolling social media seeing post after post about how another trans person was attacked or whose life was not valued simply because they were trying to be themselves. It shouldn’t be this way. We’re all just bags of mostly water standing around on a rock hurtling through space with no way off. Be excellent to each other.

That’s TDoV. A day to amplify trans voices. But what does it mean to me on my first TDoV? I can’t help but think about the V and the visibility. For some non-binary people they wear their “normal” clothes that they’ve had for years. How you present isn’t tied to your gender. You can be an assigned male at birth non-binary person wearing mens clothes or women clothes. You wear what you want. For me that means I like to wear skirts, tights, bold colours and makeup. I have a purple beard and green lipstick on right now with green eye shadow and blue eyeliner. If I go outside I get noticed. Just this morning Old Man McStares Alot did his usual head turning “What are you?” stare as he walked past me. I get noticed.

Am I ok with being visibly non-binary? So far but as someone with an anxiety disorder my brain is often fearing the worst will happen and as the days get longer and the weather gets nicer my little sleepy seaside suburb becomes busy with people. More people means more eyes and more chances for trouble. I filmed some thoughts over the past week and it just so happens that my fears weren’t unfounded.

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